When girl's dont put out.

When girl's dont put out.

I've saw this post from a blogger, It's pretty damn smart!


People out there, I hope u dont mind i posted some 18SX stuffs here, and;
Girls -- Have a sense of humor!


Enjoy! and here we go!

I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much.

And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing.

I have never figured out why

men think with their head

and

women with their heart.

FOR EXAMPLE :

One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed.

Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, “I don’t feel like it, I just want you to hold me.”

I said, “WHAT??!! What was that?!”

So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear…

“You’re just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.”

She responded to my puzzled look by saying, “Can’t you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?”

Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.

The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store.

I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfits.

She couldn’t decide which one to take, so I told her we’d just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said, “Lets get a pair for each outfit.”

We went on to the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you… she was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn’t even know how to play tennis.lol

I think I threw her for a loop when I said, “That’s fine, honey.” She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said, “I think this is all dear, let’s go to the cashier.”

I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, “No honey, I don’t feel like it.”

Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled, “WHAT?”

I then said, “Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while. You’re just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.”

And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, “Why can’t you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?”

Apparently I’m not having sex tonight either….but at least she knows I’m smarter than her.

Lol... Isn't this great. I would never know what I'd do if he told me to go on with the stuffs and at the end told me just to HOLD it!! =.=

The Art Of Forgiveness

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.

-Paul Boese.

Forgiveness is a powerful way of moving on from unfortunate experiences; it is a way of illumining a darkened past. Without forgiveness we dwell on the negative attitudes of other people and the limitations of our own self. True, it is easier to talk about forgiveness than actually do it; but, if we can forgive, it is a powerful way to let go of negative experiences and make a fresh start.

Why We Need To Forgive

Hatred makes us feel miserable.

If we are unable to forgive and forget the misdeeds of others we will carry a heavy burden around ourselves. It may have some justifications, but, hating others means that we will make our own lives difficult. When we concentrate on the bad action of others, we give too much importance to these negative qualities and invariably they become part of our mindset.

We cannot live in the past forever

Forgiveness is a way to move forward. If we are unable to forgive we will always be thinking of the past. By thinking of past blunders we will not gain illumination. Forgiveness means we allow a new chapter to be written and prevent the old mistakes and difficulties being repeated.

Mistakes are inevitable

We cannot expect ourselves or other people to be perfect. Mistakes are an inevitable part of life. Even if people are trying to do their best, they may often behave with the wrong motives and actions. If we expect anything near perfection from others, then we will always be disappointed. To be forgiving means to be flexible, tolerant and accommodating.

To err is human.
But be careful,
Do not over do it.
If to forgive is divine,
Then rest assured,
You can never over do it.

-Sri Chinmoy

A person is more than certain actions

Often our judgement of a person depends on a particular action of theirs. When someone does something wrong, we inwardly label them as a bad person.This is a mistake; someone may have unfortunate habits or bad actions, but, this is only one aspect of that person. We would not want ourself to be judged on all our mistakes; we have done wrong things, but we know this is not the sum of our person. Forgiveness means we are able to separate a person from a bad action. We are not condoning the bad thing they do; it just means we acknowledge that anybody who does wrong things also has the capacity to do good things as well. Somebody may tell a lie, but that does not mean we have to think only of them as a bad person.

In Order to forgive others,the 1st thing we have to forgive our ownself......

Self Forgiveness

If we cannot forgive ourselves how can we forgive others? If we carry a burden of guilt around, it makes it more likely that we will want to impose judgement on others; guilty people invariably look to see faults in others. To forgive our mistakes should not be seen as weakness. In fact it requires a certain strength to admit our faults, resolve not to do them again and then move on. Self - forgiveness can become a powerful way to our own personal development. If we can forgive ourselves then it becomes easier to forgive others. We realise that forgiveness is essential for being able to move on.....

Look to Good qualities

The mind is often drawn to the negative qualities of others. We spend 90% of our time thinking of other people’s transgressions; this gives an unbalanced assessment and we associate that person with the negative qualities. However, if we can only acknowledge their good qualities then it becomes much easier to have a forgiving attitude. Even if a person has done 9 wrong things maybe we can concentrate on the one good thing that they have done. If we sincerely appreciate their good qualities, it is much easier to forgive their mistakes. This is also a powerful way to bring out the best in others. If we concentrate on others failings it won’t bring about any transformation; but if we concentrate on their good qualities we encourage them and bring them to the fore.

“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love.”

-Martin Luther King, Jr.

Choose to be happy

Nursing grievances and hatred is a short cut to be unhappy and depressed. If we bitterly resent the actions of others we will never have peace of mind. We should see forgiveness as an easy way to make ourselves happier. By letting go of our grudges and grievances we allow positive thoughts and ideas to come into our mind. If we really want to be happy we need to be able to forgive both ourselves and others.

Forgiveness is the answer to the child’s dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made whole again, what is soiled is made clean again.

– Dag Hammarskjold.

Forgive and Forget

To really forgive someone, we need to be willing to forget the unfortunate experience. If we say we have forgiven someone, but continue to bring it up then it is not real forgiveness because at some time it will awaken the negative feelings.

A TREE

A Tree.What is A tree?I guess everyone know it,right?But got how many people who actually really get the deep meaning of a tree?yeah maybe a tree doesn't bring any meaning to anyone of you.But It do mean so much for me.A tree just like a human being's life.Why I say so? Maybe people will curious about that,what a funny person am I.said that just a simple tree got such a deep meaning?Well,Saturday morning,i went to my god father's house,mostly every two weeks I will go my god father's house.I love to talk with him,and he is the one who i respect the most.I love to talk with him because I do learn a lot things from him,i learn a lot of human "dao li" from him,and what he say I do agree.well,lets come back here.....As usual,I and my god father sit at the coffee shop and have some talk,and he told me about a tree....At first I was curious and feel weird...what is so interesting about a tree??He then told me,yeah a tree is just a normal tree and not special at all,but human being is just like a tree.I once again felt curious. How a Tree become a Tree?This is the first question he asked me. He then say,A big,strong tree is grow up from a tiny seed.At first we have to plant the seed,after plant the seed,the crop needs water,sunlight,fertilizer and most important TIME to make the crop grow.Don't ever think that today we plant the seed,and tomorrow it will grow up become big n strong and we can get the fruits.There is No such thing.and this is also same in human being.The day we born,we are just a tiny baby just like a seeds.and from there we need milk,food,mother's care and most important time to grow up right?And always people like to blame,why I did so much charity work,why am I being so kind and never being bad since the day I born,but still I can't get any good returned??Why?Why?? and Why??? Why It can be like that.everyone will blame the god,Why you are so unfair? why? This is just same as a tree, we plant it today,doesn't mean the next day it will grow up and we can get the fruit.NO its not that way,same as our life,today we did the charity,but doesn't mean tomorrow we will see and get the good returned. At the same time,those who being bad and done a lot bad things doesn't mean he or she will get the bad returned tomorrow.I believe a lot of people always blame that,why those who did bad thing but still can enjoy their life compared which those we being good all the time but suffer a lot.So just practice being good,kind and don't always think of getting the reward.Since the day we born,we are practicing,everyday we are practicing,since the moment we step on the floor,we are practicing,and what ever we did,no matter good or bad,we have to accept it.Did good,get good.Did bad,get bad.that's all.We won't get our result until the day we died.So try our best to being kind,help those who needs help.

Well,back to here...My god father ask me another question.he asked me,which tree do you feel or think is more healthy,whether the wild tree at the roadside,or the tree that we plant at home and with a lot of attachment on it.I answered,i think is the wild tree at the roadside.He then said your absolutely right.But actually I don't know why the tree at the roadside is more healthy than the one we plant,I just simply feel that.My god father told me,well....the wild tree is more healthy compared with the one we plant at home is because the wild tree grow up under the bad environment,without any cares,and always face a the heavy rain and wind,so from there they become strong,when they grow under a bad environment they get used and get strong,and when next time there is a heavy rain or wind,they never scare of it,because they already get used.On the other hand,the tree we plant at home is different,the tree we plant at home can't stand for the heavy rain and wind,they will die if there is heavy rain and wind,because they never experience it,the environment they grow is so nice and good,each time when there is rain or wind,the owner will take good care of it,wont let it get any damaged,therefore they never experience that and always living in a good environment.and this is also same in our life.As we can see,those who not grow up in a rich,nice,good environment kid will always end up with a lawyer,doctor,engineering.why?why they can be so success? Its because they grow up in a bad environment,they grow up from a poor family,therefore since young they already need to suffer a lot,since young they understand how important is money,since young they understand what is suffer,what is the taste of bitter,sour....so they appreciate everything they have,they know food cannot be wasted,money cannot simple spend,and they know how to appreciate everything that they owned,therefore they can success.But on the other hand,those who born with a golden spoon,they don't know how to appreciate things,they don't know how suffer feel like,they never tasted the taste of sour,bitter,because all the time they are living in a nice,rich,high standard,quality life.Since young,what they want,their parents gave them,what they have is all the best.what they want,their parents also will get it for them,since young they already get use with the life that nothing is impossible for them,because as long as they want,as long as they sound out,their parents will always get them the best thing in front of them,they never know to worry,they never know to scare,because they can have anything they want.But if one day,their parents facing financial problems and they have to lower their standard or living,at that time they will suffer a lot...suffer even more then those who is poor,because since the day they born,what they have is all the best thing,once they get into trouble,they don't know how to face it,because they never face that before.They are exactly like the tree that we plant in our home.

Life is like that,in our life, we have to taste Sweet,sour,bitter,spicy we have to taste all,there is no such thing as forever sweet,in our life Sweet and sour sure appears...We have to fail,without fail we also wont success,without falls,we never noe how to walk....therefore no matter what we also have to face it and accept it.Sweet or sour is depends on how we handle and how we look into it, sweet we can just keep as memory....and sour we can keep it as a bonus for our journey to learn something new,If we never fall we never know how to walk,If we never try,We never know,If you don't fail,then you're not trying anything new,you're not pushing the envelope,you're just playing it safe.In fact,the more we fall,the more we fail,the more we learn and the more we gain from it.Don't sad because of fail or fall,instead should feel happy and proud,you can fail n fall is because you are trying....so...should feel proud and happy to yourself.doesn't it feel better when u think like that?Don't feel sad and disappointed when u meet problems or meet someone bad,instead you should be grateful if you know someone that is nice...Be thankful when meet someone bad or something bad...because you know it,experience it and you will not repeat your wrong again....and be lucky you know it earlier and not fool till the end...and there is nothing that is too late.....NO one will know what is going to happen to next minutes,so appreciate whatever you have right now this moment.

Who im?where im?

Who I'm and where I'm right now?Its a big question marks.Its funny rite?dare i say i dunno who I'm right now.I am who I'm....but who I'm??I really cannot answer...I no have the answer too.people always say,no one will ever understand yourself beside yourself,but now?I don't even know who I'm, isn't that terrible??Life is like that.......I think everyone had faced this kind of situation too...rite??Hope I can get rid of this situation soon....erm...or isn't because of I'm having exam now so I face this kind of situation?hope its because of that.....so maybe after exam i be OK?life life life......arr.....life full of pressure,tension,problem.....but I think I will take it easy,so that i will make my life meaningful?I love the song Amazing Grace....erm this song is full of meaning,the meaning behind this song is tell us that,whenever we face prob,no matter how suffer we are,how tough it is,there is always miracle.and as long as we still believe that in this terrible world there is is something that is wonderful then there will be miracle?I hope that too,but human are like that,when facing problem,we will think that its end of days,there is no more hopes,I think that is totally wrong,we shouldn't think that way,that isn't the right way.but human's brain love to think that way....haha even myself,I don't understand too,why can't we think positive,think that the world is still wonderful,think that everything will be fine.we just can't do it,whenever we face prob,we always need someone beside us to advise us,when we are in trouble,we can't think that positive anymore,we need people beside us to advice and support us.There is something quite funny,when my friends having problem,I can help them very well,but when problem happened on myself,I can't take it that easy anymore......that why we need a really good friend to support and help us when we are in trouble.but good friend isn't easy to find,among thousands of people,maybe only few or even one that suit to be your good friend,so for those who already have a good friend please appreciate the friendship,and for those who still can't find their good friend,don't feel sad or abandoned,because I strongly believe everyone will found their good friend one day later.there is always hope in tomorrow,so never give up easily.Forget the unhappy today,and look forward to the wonderful tomorrow.

Haha Its a funny thin about LIFE,if you refuse to accept anything but the best,you very often get it.So do what we can,with what we have and where we are.
We don't have to be everything to everyone.We need only be ourselves,understand and accept who we are and use that knowledge to capitalize on our strenghts.

What people think, and what you know

Why does it seem like anyone who is not happy with their own life has to judge and demand the good things in others peoples life just to make themselves feel better? It causes those who are less sure of themselves to question things they thought they knew were a good thing.
Sometimes we need that extra push to do things that are hard and other people wont understand.

Take BeINg homesexsual.In almost the negatif ways people will see them as very bad or don’t ever being fren wif them!!The worst is some of the people will even scared abt them….scare to meet theM,scare to comunicate wif them and wont ever be their freN….Actualy some of them were hapless as they being homesexsual since the day they born!!Do we ever think about their feeling??Do they feel happy??or embarras??we never care about their feeling at all!!!sometimes people will even worst,humiliate them in front of everybody,never care what their feeling….They never try to think if others do the same thing on them,how they feel.why not try to think before they did. Those people wont feel guilty even they had done something that is wrong!!!This is wat human being’s attitude??But those homesexsuals never abandon each other….although people hurt them alot!!!they will always think wif positif and maybe tis is y they were happier than us!!They will persist their life untill end of the day!!!Whenever people saw them will dropped them like a hot potato.Actually they are also huMan being….same wif all of us….also created by GOD!!!wats the different??jus bcoz they are homesexual??They not a violent or dangerous person,they wont kill us,they wont eat us,they wont speak with violence!!!So y people so scare to be fren wif them??we should not think them by the negatif way!!

Now Homesexsual is just an example of when relatively intelligent people judge and demand others just because its different or because they don’t understand it.

So anyone out there who thinks they are being put down just because they are different, just try and be strong and realize that no matter how different you are they’re others like u and that u are not alone. And you shouldn’t be afraid to be different, u should pity those who are afraid to be themselves.

Be Yourself

Have someone ever came up to you and insult de way you are? And starts ignoring you until you change and become someone they wan you to be? Do you do dat?

Well maybe some do…actually why? Is being someone your not happy and cool? Is being a total fake-O cool? Some ppl jz act like someone their not jz to "Fit-In"! Why care so much??? Why do you care bout wat ppl think bout you? I mean its your life man..Live it they way you wan to..Noone has the rite to tell you wat you shud be! Only you have de rite to tell youself wat you wanna be!

Those that talk behind you either :
1)Dont have their own life to care bout
2)Jealous of you
3)Nothin better to do wid their life
4)Wishes they could be jz like you!

Those "friends" that insulted you may not be real friends, cuz real friends like you for who you are and not who your acting as. I mean were all special, and we have different characteristic i mean if everyone acts like some expected attitude den everyone would be the same!!
And if you act like someone your not, you so wont be livin Your life you’ll be living someone else’s life..I mean you were given a life and you jz lived it someone else’s way.. its YOUR life not theirs dun care bout wat they think so much..wat they think is THEIR thinking not YOURS… wat does you heart say?
So if someone ever goes up to you and start insulting you, look down at them and say "Dont you have a life to care bout? OOO rite you dont thats why you need to care bout MINE!" Be brave and confident bout yourself,dont let ppl control your life!

Jz a piece of my mind while i saw a friend of mine

What We understand About Failure And what mean by Failure

Failure doesn’t mean you are a failure,
It does mean you haven’t yet succeeded.

Failure doesn’t mean you have accomplished nothing,
It does mean u have learned something.

Failure doesn’t mean that you have been a fool,
It does mean you have a lot of faith.

Failure doesn’t mean tht you have been disgraced,
It does mean you were willing to try.

Failure doesn’t mean that you don’t have it,
It does mean you have to do something in a different way.

Failure doesn’t mean you are inferior,
It does mean you are not perfect.

Failure doesn’t mean you’ve wasted your life,
It does mean you have a reason to start afresh.

Failure doesn’t mean you should give up,
It does mean you should try harder.

Failure doesn’t mean you will never make it,
It does mean it will take a little longer.

Failure doesn’t mean God has abandoned you,
It does mean God has a better way.

Dreams

Dreams....Not the things you do while sleeping but the things you wish while you are awake.

What would it take to acomplish your dreams? Well i guess first you have to figure out what your dreams are. To be honest i dont really know what i want besides being happy. But i guess that is a good dream. But if your dream was there in front of your eyes would you be brave enough to grab it and hold on? Or would you let it pass by with regrets your whole life? Sure dreams can change, but the need to fufil them will not. Some dreams its more about the journey then the actual destination. The thrill of self discovery.
I think i would do whatever it takes to accomplish my dreams. You have to be willing to risk it all. Otherwise it would not be a dream.

True Love

True LoVe

IT was busy morning when,at bout 8.30,an elderly gentleman walked in to have sutures removed from his thumb.He stated tht he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9.
I took his vital signs and had him take a seat,knowing it would be over an hour before someone would able to see him.I sw him looking at his watch and decided,since i was not busy with another patient,to evaluate his wound.
On examining his thumb,I noticed it has healed well,so i spoke to one of the doctors and got the needed su[pplies to remove the sutures nd re-dress his wound.Then we started talking.
I asked the gentleman if he had a doctor’s appointment,as he seemed to be a hurry,He said no,but he needed to go to the nursing home to have breakfast with his wife.I then inquired bout her health.He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of ALZHEIMER’s disease.
As I finished dressing his wound,I asked if his wife would be worried if he were a bit late.He replied that she no longer knew who he was,that she had not recognised him for five years.
Now I was surprised.”And You still go every morning,even though she does’t know who your are??”
He smiled as he patted my hand and said:”She doesn’t know Me,but I still know who she Is.”

True LOVE

we are all the SAME

we are all the SAME

Many a time,perople tend to judge others by their appearances.Ever heard the phrase,dont judge a book by its cover??Well nevertht seems to apply.
Many ppl take pride in judging ppl by their appearances.Forexample,a girl who who is considered good looking or sophisticated,may be deemed a slut,some kind of *dumb blonde*,an arrogant personor even sometims a man-eater.People then tend to gossip abt them nspread extreamly bad rumours.Instead of gossping abt them,whynot take the time to actually get to know them n actually find out the good sideof them instead of judging them for their looks??
This also applies to perple who are on the*Wide*side.there are actually ppl who take timeto taunt such persons n belittle them abt their weight.Sometims,these ppl dont realisetheir taunts n judging of a person might actually cause their poor victims to commit suicideor become bulimic or anorexic.Why not eNcOuRAge them instead of taunting them n tell them politely to change their habits instead of calling them really rude names.
There aRE ALso Ppl wHo JudGe others based on their skin colour.Does it matter wat skin CoLOuR we Are??IT’S wHO we aRe oN thE iNsIde THt reAlLY MAtTERS.We are like two diffErENt cOloUReD aPplES:one gree n one red.Peel ofF oUr SkINs n we are All thE SAme bEnEaTh OUr eXtERior.God make us who we so whY DO WE NeeD to cRitICIsE a PerSOn?
All of us are equal.Some may be blessed with looks,others may be blessed with intellect and there are sOMe Who are blessed with different types or talentS.No one is the better than the others.
The next time u see someone on the sTReeT,try not to judge them based on their looks.
All human beinG are the same!!!!no one is better than otherS!!All of us r created by GOd!!!!